Do people really need a "social lubricant"?

Ah well ..yes people I am talking about social drinking.. I don't fall in the category of "social drinking" ( I do drink lots of water though :)),however I do have friends who drink at parties or make excuses and situations to drink and label it as social drinking.
Various situations that come to my mind( This situation can be also the other way round you know where she is the drinker and he non drinker )

Situation 1:

He: I am meeting a friend from school ? Haven't seen him in ages?
She : Where you guys meeting ?
He: At the bar? You know lots of catching up to do.
She : Sighs Ok ..Have fun and be safe

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Situation 2:

He : Hey my manager called me for a drink, I didn't want to go but had to say yes . You know what if he feels bad and he thought of calling me so I had to oblige.
She: Hmmm ok . You don't really have to drink if you don't want to but you can still give him company...
He: Ya but, thats not how it is ..
She : Ok .. Take care
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Situation 3

She: Why do people think its important to drink at official parties or why do people think they need to have few shots to have fun at a party?

He: Well firstly at official parties when people drink it kinda breaks the ice between people and it becomes easier to connect and talk about things they couldn't otherwise. And when people take drinks at parties the mood lightens and ya....

She: Are you telling me that you cannot connect with a person or people at a normal dinner or lunch where they are sober and in their senses. Are you telling me that guys and gals need to have few shots to dance at a party? I thought good music and friends were sufficient. Besides what is fun when you cannot rememeber or recall what you said or did or the way you moved or who you danced with.. Beats me ..

He : Its not like that? Are you telling me that drinking is a sin ?

She : No its not a sin .Its not the drinking part thats bothering me . Its the attitude and reasons behind drinking that bothers me. If you want to have few drinks go ahead and drink. Don't make it seem like a necessary 'social lubricant'.
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Situation 4

She: Hey man!! Saw a pic of yours the other day on FB ? I didn't know you smoke ?
He: Am not a smoker but I smoke when I drink.
She: Ah! I see ...

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I meet lots of new people everyday at work and I have also attended few parties where drinks were served so I had this chance to see what really happens at this official social drinking party ..Really nothing happened they had drinks and parted ways :)... Ya I had cola with the bunch of people who drink cola and ya we also talked things and parted ways.
I am not trying to judge drinkers and non drinkers but really one cannot say that social drinking is a must to be part of corporate life and I also feel social drinking is a choice. So if you have made a choice to drink accept it and don't give reasons for why one should drink.
I don't drink and I am not socially handicapped and so are many other people who do drink.

There are situations where people tend to over drink and end up hurting family and friends or how about irresponsible driving after drinking. These are not cases of responsible drinking but how can you know when the thin line to alcoholism is crossed ?. Sometimes innocent people lose life because one person chose to have fun. If you plan on drinking get someone who is not drinking to drive you home. Isn't that a more responsible behavior than hurting people around?.
This can go on and on forever ...And I am not able to type further

So Cheers :) and be safe ......


Here are few links of positive and negative sides to social drinking

http://vaden.stanford.edu/library/alcoholSocialDrinking.html

http://www.memorialhospital.org/Library/general/general-SOCIAL.html

http://www.damninteresting.com/?p=435

http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/alcohol/Pages/Socialdrinking.aspx

Love Is...

No, I am not going to give gyan about what love is..? I am talking about my favorite comicstrip Love Is... which I miss reading since Comicspage stopped updating Love is... and many other comics on its webpage.

This comicstrip makes you realise how simple things in life can make a BIG difference in your life.

Those of you reading this and who were regular vistors to the page to read Love is... and those of you who would want to read Love is... can now visit

( www.gocomics.com ).. (Yiipeee!!!!)

Thanks to the Chinese girl who helped me find the link in Facebook :)...

The story behind Love Is..

Love is... is a comic strip created by New Zealand artist, Kim Grove in the late 1960s, later to be produced by Stefano Casali. The strip is syndicated worldwide by Tribune Media.

Love Is... (the title includes the ellipsis mark), began as a series of little love notes that Kim Grove drew for her future husband, Roberto Casali. The strip was first syndicated in 1970 and one of her most famous drawings, "Love Is...being able to say you are sorry", published on February 9, 1972, was marketed internationally for many years in print, on cards and on souvenirs. (Read more about it on http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_Is...)

Happy reading ...:)

Life without Limbs- Amazing Nick Vujicic

Can you imagine a life without limbs? Not being able to walk,to touch, to hug, to run ..Unthinkable isn't ???? Well meet Nick Vujicic and see how amazing this person is..




I am speechless when I see these videos. Makes me feel silly when I fuss over small things thrown at me. The confidence and the way this guy holds his head up and walk inspires me to be more grateful for the life I have been given. Nick has appeared in the Oprah Winfrey show to promote his words and he is also releasing a book by 2009 called No Arms, No Legs, No Worries!
He also has a corporacorporate motivational speaking company "Attitude Is Altitude".te motivational speaking company "Attitude Is Altitude". (http://www.attitudeisaltitude.com/)

Nick Vujicic was born on December 4 ,1982 in Brisbane, Australia, limbless, missing both arms at shoulder level, and having one small foot with two toes protruding from his left thigh. Initially his parents were devastated, however Nick turned out to be otherwise perfectly healthy.

He is now a motivational speaker and the director for Life Without Limbs, an organization that is for the physically disabled. (http://www.lifewithoutlimbs.org/)

Nick graduated from college at the age of 21 with as a double major in Accounting and Financial Planning. He began his travels as a motivational speaker, focusing on the topics that today's teenagers face. He also speaks in the corporate sector, however his aim is to become an international inspirational speaker, in both Christian and non-Christian venues.



Read more here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nick_Vujicic

Nobody's Fool- Avril Lavigne

Enjoy the song!!

Psst!!! Look who's gossiping?

The best days of my life is definitely the time I spent at ASB and I was very sad to leave college, but life must go on. All of us landed on some jobs and some married off and thanks to e-mails and mobile phones, we still keep in touch. But wedding is one occassion where we meet old friends and just sit around and chit chat like there's no end.:)

I noticed that the guys remebered most of the things that happened back in college and even bitched about people they thought were weird and of course made jokes about each other and blah blah....At the end of it, all I had to say was "Whoever said that men don't gossip obviously never heard a group of men talk!!!" :)......The guys suddenly got all defensive and from there on the next part of the fun began ...girls against guys and somehow the endless debate ended ...

What I can't seem to understand is why women are sterotyped as gossipers when men also do the same...What I think is that people love to gossip irrespective of their sexes. But gossip is not a negative thing as long as it doesn't harm anyones sentiments. Because sometimes gossips do get you some informations that you otherwise never have had access to. On a positive note we can say that, gossiping is a way of networking :).....

Here are two articles that I found interesting about gossip:

http://career-advice.monster.com/office-politics/Can-Gossiping-on-the-Job-Really-Hur/home.aspx

http://www.pdcnet.org/pdf/ijap141-Westacott.pdf

Happy New Year...

Welcome 2008!!!!

It's true when someone said "Absence makes the heart grow fonder'
It's when family members go different paths to pursue their interests, holidays and festivals seems to have more value.
The past two years I have been looking forward to these festive holidays as my brother comes home from Chennai which means lots of funny movies to watch, lot of rap music, lots more food, in short lots of fun :)... When he leaves, our home suddenly quite down :(... I am already waiting for the next holiday...

I didn't make any resolution this year as I know I am not going to stick to it. But I have added few more items to my secret wish list. I hope they come true this year :) [Chuckles!!!]

Have a great year everybody....